http://www.crossthered.com by Everita Dave-Worley

Challenge your inner satisfaction and stereotypes.

5/13/2012

All because SHE loves me:

It makes me feel worthy of love;
I am peaceful inside and never interested to prove my worth;
And sometimes I am nervous as hell to get what I want;
I have that courage to change and constantly improve myself;
I am not afraid to dream as big or small as I truly desire;
I value action more than words, personalities more than titles, wisdom more than theory, peace more than conflicts and God above everything;
I have never felt the need to compare myself with anybody;
I have learned to make compromises and avoid cliches;
I can get up from being down without becoming addicted;
I can travel and move far away because there always is a safe place to return;
I can search for and follow my inner voice;
I have learned the magic of ordinary;
I am not afraid to fall in love and give love;
And I still can`t fail because she believes in me...she is my beloved Grandmom.
...
and now I know that all those are the greatest things a person can experience,
(it took me ~ 35 years to precisely come to this conclusion)
and now I know how to measure my own success of being a mother - 
 succeed if my daughter feels my love deeply and confidently,
and I desire to give it to her in that very special way.
Its all because I love her.
...
Mothers are great servants, they rule by serving. Motherhood.


4/29/2012

Challenging my status quo

Success is not an entitlement, it has to be earned every day. This comes from my understanding of business and life in general. You have to work hard for what you believe. To build a sustainable success, you have to eradicate the human behavior of relaxing. The status quo.

Even, though, I am a big believer of hard work and innovation, lately I start noticing the value of peace. The value of status quo.

We all know that in order to make our mood swing, we have to move the body. My mind have always worked the best after work outs or physical work. Its like a vitamin for brain. However, sometimes you can move your body, mind etc.but nothing goes "your way" anyway. Stopping there becomes the only option.

We all have been on that bench, haven`t we?

Some things in life are getting out of control. It`s just something we can not affect or influence. Somebody greater than us is "taking care" of things and makes us get on the path we never wanted or dreamed about.
We can cry, get depressed and do whatever...until we accept it and follow the guidelines so to say. Usually later during life`s journey we will find that this was the best turn we could ever make... Like my Granny says: "God knows why". It takes a lot of courage to let things go "their way".

It is basically the essence of the whole story of Christianity & Jesus Christ. He was terribly & humanly scared of God`s plan, the crucifixion (Christianity is the only religion which doesn't glorify its Messiah and shows its tears and fears). Resurrection could happen only because Jesus followed God`s plan. Perhaps it tells us that the best things in life can happen only when we follow the God`s plan.

My question has always been: when to stop my own actions and let things happen "the God`s way"? Sometimes I feel like Albert Einstein said about himself: "Its not that I am so smart. It`s just that I stay with problems longer" or maybe I just want to see what I am "made of" LOL. Anyway, lately I have found the answer - after you have done EVERYTHING possible, just stop there. It is simple because there is nothing you can do anyway. It is a challenging point, the status quo...

P.S. (from wikipedia):Status quo, a commonly used form of the original Latin "statu quo" – literally "the state in which" – is a Latin term meaning the current or existing state of affairs. To maintain the status quo is to keep the things the way they presently are.


The original phrase from 14th-century diplomatic Latin was in stat quo res erant ante bellum, meaning "in the state in which things were before the war". This gave rise to the shorter form status quo ante bellum "the state in which (it was) before war" (indicating the withdrawal of enemy troops and restoration of power to prewar leadership), as well as other variations such as status quo itself.

4/18/2012

MOMS DO IT BETTER !

Yes, we do! :)


It doesn`t matter what it is, but we/moms really have that capacity to excel. Anything we do is coming from deeper being. We know what it feels like to be somebody who can somewhat play the role of God - to give life and take care of another human being. Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn't know you had, and dealing with fears you didn't know existed.


Although physically challenging, it is one of the greatest God`s given gift to become a mom. Yesterday this gift was given to one of my close girlfriends. She gave birth to lil boy! Cheers!


Before Mothers Day I want to cheer up all the women - if you are or want to become a mom, you know what I am talking about - your heart and thoughts will multiply and never be only within your body any more...it will always be away, with  your kids...and it feels great, the same as many other pleasures that life can give! 


p.s. I liked these:
I remember my mother's prayers and they have always followed me.  They have clung to me all my life.  ~Abraham Lincoln


When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts.  A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.  ~Sophia Loren,Women and Beauty


Anyway, Moms do it better! :) Join the club! 

4/03/2012

Defacing the world, old, classics, icons

I have always been interested in conceptual art in various aspects of life - art, advertising, fashion and everyday human behavior. Defaced icons become icons of new time. Success in conceptual arts is somewhat proportional to fearlessness of the artist. You have to be able to express yourself on the "basis" of existing stereotypes and icons, use those as the fundament for making new out of old and yet, leave both to co-exist. Like legendary Mona Lisa picture and its todays conceptual "modification" - both represent certain time periods and concepts. Both inspire and there is nothing reductive.



It is like with teenage kids. It is an amazing fact that in order for any personality to develop, they have to deny their parents` viewpoints. The old. Its the pre-condition for their personal and overall evolution. So parents must understand that kids being rebellious is a very needed fact or lets say a must to grow and develop their own opinion, thinking, personality, signature etc.. Later in life they will define the world for everybody to live in. And life must be interesting. For all of us and after us.

 Nobody can know is this type of art defining transitional period before something new is developed, like teenage years of a human being, or it will continue to have its say in the history of arts.

Below are some conceptual pictures that in my opinion are greatly representing todays world.








4/01/2012

Happiness lies into your own hands

Im a big fan of commercials that make me either laugh or think. Enjoy the day, drink milk :) and never say no to Panda :)







2/19/2012

Either we stand united or we fall divided

Yesterday my people in Latvia were forced to vote for or against one (Latvian) or two (Latvian and Russian) official languages. The result is ~24% for two and 76% for only Latvian language. This voting was initiated by some Russian prisoner (!) to start an ethnical conflict.


Why there is a need to make ethnical conflicts in the world?  It is usually because of some evil / selfish benefits and manipulations which aim to grab and destroy somebody`s land, resources and values. As we can see in history, that is how regimes start - when false leaders are not willing to rule by serving but want to rule by destroying. Wherever you see regime, you must know that there is a lie in beneath. At least I see it this way and my proof is that people who happened to be born in regime places around the world are living in poverty because they have not much choice nor property. And because crowds are easy to trick, regimes do not die easy...


For those who havent lived in regime, like USSR was, you might not fully understand massive manipulations, lies and horror people experience when they have no private property, no free speach (although, I do not see it for 100% in none of world`s countries), no choice. Everything is or can be taken from you literally if you decide to think and talk freely. In this case they would officially announce you a "capitalist" or "terrorist" and send to Sibiria to "change your mind" if survived or just simply kill or put in jail. Intelligence meant glorifying communism. People were forced to learn to lie, to steal, to hide...and it was the only way how to survive...

After USSR regime crashed (everything was stolen and there was no way to keep it alive), Latvia as well as Estonia, Ukraine, Russia and other countries got their sovereignty back. Until this day there have been evil forces who continued to incite people in these countries, mostly about the fact of "discriminated nationality & language & rights". Despite smart people who clearly notice this manipulation, there are many who believe in these lies and manipulations.

Without going into details of how and why, I just do not see the real reason why one rich (resource-wise) and powerful country (Russia) needs to go into other poor lil country (Latvia) and demand special rights for its people. Poverty in Russia is super high and (it is common in country side to see cows living in one room with poor people and drunks everywhere) and mega disproportional to its few rich people. So Russia definitely has a homework to do before putting its nose in other yards. Isn`t that the best worldly model that there is a "warm place" for each nation and language to work upon? It is like having a private property to improve. We can travel, move, choose other places for living, live in other countries respectfully and there is no need for ethnical conflicts.

The truth is that regardless of poorly functioning whole system for development, all the residents in Latvia (Russians, Latvians and others) have equal rights for property, education, jobs etc. The culture is specific, government corrupt and malfunctioning. You can not do much here if you want to be honest or want to work hard because old soviet habits are embedded into most of people. It might take few generations to get rid of those habits. But I do see it possible.

After yesterdays voting our society is somewhat divided and unneeded hate was sown in some hearts. These things usually blind people. We all (Latvians, Russians and whoever lives here) have so much to live and work for in my country Latvia to change it for better and make it flourish. It can only be done together. Regardless of nationalities. Either we stand united or we fall divided.



   

2/14/2012

Par mīlestību, drosmi, skropstām un Valentīndienu


Kad es biju maziņa, es domāju, ka mīlestība ir pieaugušo padarīšana, jebšu, godīgi sakot - laikam nedomāju par to neko, pēc tam es domāju, ka tās ir tādas bučas un viss tas pārējais. Vēlāk, ka tie ir lieli taureņi vēderā, kas liek lēkāt no laimes, bet pēc tam, ka varbūt man tomēr labāk gribētos izvēlēties dārgu auto, smieklīgu villu un lustīgu žigalo...


Tad atnāca lielākas jūtas, kas radīja vislielāko pasaules brīnumu - cilvēku! Un tad es sapratu, ka mīlestība ir arī pienākums un vēlme ziedoties. Vēlāk man vajadzēja, lai mīlestība man notic tā, ka man "spārni švīkst" ...un tad es to visu nosaucu par Dievu, jo sajutu sevī radīšanas prieku un neizmērojamu drosmi būt pašai bez sirdsapziņas pārmetumiem, jo man "vienkārši tā gribās".


Tikai šodien sapratu, ka neko nesaprotu par Valentīnu. Ko tas grib? Vai aizvest mani uz striptīzu un prasto erota izstādi, likt novilkt man biksītes un pozēt "seksīgi" , lai atbilstu standartam par tēmu "iekārojama" vai tomēr tas ir mazs, naivs eņģelis, kas čukst man ausīs mūziku par mīlestību, putniem un visu to, ko es vēl nesaprotu.


...šīs dienas man vienmēr liek domāt, ka es nebaidos kļūt vecāka, jo mana pieredze rāda, ka dzīvot kļūst tikai labāk, bet varbūt rīt es jau domāšu citādi. Lai vai kā, kāds gejisks paziņa man reiz teica, ka vieglākais veids, kā atļauties un uzdrošināties būt laimīgai un patiesai ir drosme pateikt, ka "man tā vienkārši gribās"   nu ko lai dara, man šodien vienkārši neko negribās, jo man "tā vienkārši gribās" neko daudz negribēt (nu varbūt vienīgi pārīti liekās skropstas....tās ir mana pēdējā laika vājība)   


2/07/2012

I`m falling in love...

....with handwriting...

If I was IT guru, I could make an "Apple-2" - to generate the hand-writing tool that would replace or compliment the keyboard and inspire people to hand-write special texts.
It would be so much more personal to hand-write and receive handwritten letters, especially appreciated by romantic lovers, wouldn`t it? Can`t you smell a Valentine here? :)
Seriously, I think it would be great to hand-write directly, without printing, scanning etc.

I believe that the most meaningful in this world is unexplainable. Handwriting could be one of examples here. When we look at handwritten text, it is not even visual & cognitive perception of words we get - it is something more that we sense about it. It is more complex and inspirational. Healthy.

Another thing that made me think about the magic of handwriting is the time I spend with my daughter to teach her writing skills. It is a magical feeling of reality...When I hold the pen in my hand...it feels like transformation of my heart and mind into the textual message I create...

Recently, I have been reading about few romantic love stories in the history. One of them is somewhat legendary and widely known - about Napoleon Bonaparte and his Josephine. Their correspondence inspires to think about deep inner feelings people are capable for each other. As an example, below I have copied one of his letters to her:


Marmirolo, July 17, 1796

I have received your letter, my adorable friend. It has filled my heart with joy. I am grateful to you for the trouble you have taken to send me the news. I hope that you are better today. I am sure that you have recovered. I earnestly desire that you should ride on horseback: it cannot fail to benefit you.

Since I left you, I have been constantly depressed. My happiness is to be near you. Incessantly I live over in my memory your caresses, your tears, your affectionate solicitude. The charms of the incomparable Josephine kindle continually a burning and a glowing flame in my heart. When, free from all solicitude, all harassing care, shall I be able to pass all my time with you, having only to love you, and to think only of the happiness of so saying, and of proving it to you? I will send you your horse, but I hope you will soon join me. I thought that I loved you months ago, but since my separation from you I feel that I love you a thousand fold more. Each day since I knew you, have I adored you yet more and more. This proved the maxim of Bruyere, that "love comes all of a sudden," to be false. Everything in nature has its own course, and different degrees of growth.

Ah! I entreat you to permit me to see some of your faults. Be less beautiful, less gracious, less affectionate, less good, especially be not over-anxious, and never weep. Your tears rob me of reason, and inflame my blood. Believe me it is not in my power to have a single thought which is not of thee, or a wish I could not reveal to thee.

Seek repose. Quickly re-establish your health. Come and join me, that at least, before death, we may be able to say, "We were many days happy." A thousand kisses, and one even to Fortuna, notwithstanding his spitefulness.

BONAPARTE


I think this letter would tell us more, if handwritten. Don`t you think?
Can you sense somewhat more of Napoleon in his handwritten letter to Josephine, copied below:


The story of Pierre Abelard and Heloise is another one of the templates of this narrative.
Less known, therefore I placed the short story of theirs here:


 Both Abelard and Heloise were prominent intellectuals of twelfth century France. Abelard, of noble birth and eighteen years the senior of Heloise, was a prominent lecturer in philosophy. Abelard was an adventurous thinker, and was constantly at odds with the Church. On several occasions he was forced to recant and burn his writings.

Heloise was a strong-willed and gifted woman who was fluent in Latin, Greek and Hebrew, and came from a lower social standing than Abelard. At age 19, and living under her uncle Fulbert's roof, Heloise fell in love with Abelard, who she was studying under. Not only did they have a clandestine affair of a sexual nature, they had a child, Astrolabe, out of wedlock. Discovered by the Fulbert (who was a Church official), Abelard was assaulted by a hired thug and castrated, and Heloise entered a convent. Abelard was exiled to Brittany, where he lived as monk. Eventually Heloise became abbess of the Oratory of the Paraclete, an abbey which Abelard had founded.
It was at this time that they exchanged their famous letters. The letters, originally written in Latin, were passionate both in the remembrance of lost love, and the attempt to reconcile that love with their respective monastic duty to remain chaste. The tension between these two poles generates a huge amount of emotional electricity.
And again, if we read the photocopies of their handwriting - we sense their story so much closer.

 I highly appreciate Internet and all the opportunities it has to offer. In Internet we can find a lot about so many things, people, stories, illusions etc. There is almost no security and anonymity, but do we really need one?

 I call Internet the tool of expression, but not perception. It can help you to tell & communicate, but it can not help you to create based on online information. Even, though, it touches our visual, cognitive and audio senses and provides with lots of information - it remains superficial and can not touch our deepest senses, the unexplainable ones - like love and personality touch. I can tell you about my thoughts and facts online, however, without meeting me in person, you won`t have a true idea what kind of art am I in reality. We cant even hug, nor shake hands virtually.

So what about Apple-2 for direct handwriting?
This could be a progressive step towards the reinvention of historical values + surely sellable, especially before Valentines (wink, wink) (!)



2/06/2012

I got inspired by American Football and arctic cold

and now you may kiss the frog to turn it into princess! Hope it helps :) 

Who could do it better?

You can die of boredom if decided to watch football for ~4 !!!! hours!!! ...unless there is a promise to see MADONNAs show.
Good thing there is youtube. No need to waste your time, just click on their video, copied below. She was doing it the best.